Being Kind in 2020

I love, I laugh, I am happy. I struggle, I fail. I cry. Sometimes I am looked at as “skinny” sometimes I am looked at as “chunky.” We are all human. As perfect or put together anyone looks on the outside, we all have to remember that we have our flaws and we are all just trying!!!

It seems the more I feel our generation is growing into these beautiful, creative and inspiring people, the more I start to see the hatred behind so many. I feel much of this is fueled by jealousy. I know as much as I hate to admit it, sometimes I will see someone’s picture and think – Omg like really? – In a negative almost judgy way. Then I realize it’s because this person looks awesome and their photo is so creative that I just wish it was me. But there is a way to handle this, and it’s why 9/10 times I follow this by throwing them a like and commenting something like “Oh honey you are killin’ it!”

Sometimes people post too much on social media. Hell, I tend to be one of those people. But I post because it is an outlet for me. I have struggled with Anxiety and Depression ever since I was young. I have tried so many different hobbies, but it turns out I like blogging and posting on social media. It helps calm my anxiety to have something I enjoy like taking pictures, sharing my life, and visiting cool places. I just started to post my workouts this week too because it helps me stay accountable to myself! Yes, I may be annoying to some but I do this for me and for all the people who message me saying, “Hey! Thank you for that shopping tip”, or “Hey I just tried that recipe and my parents loved it,” or “Hey I am heading on a trip and want to hear your recommendations.”

Next time you look at a girl who posts too much remember, she is doing this for some reason of her own. Maybe it’s because she does want the attention. Often people who post for attention are people who feel lonely and want someone out there to have their back. Instead of pulling her down, why don’t you hype her up! Sometimes people post because they want to help others. Maybe her posts are annoying you, but her opening up is inspiring someone dealing with their own struggles to speak up and talk to someone about what they are going through. I could talk about this for hours but I think you get the point.

We are human. We are going to feel jealous or get annoyed or feel like we will never be as cool as that influencer with 1.2 million followers who became famous just for posting something called a “Tik Tok.” However, with all of that being said, you control how you feel and how you want to move forward. It takes way more energy to put negativity out there than it does to just be happy for someone who is doing what they love. So make it a goal to engage more with people you inspire to be like, instead of hating them because you think you’ll never be them. Most importantly though, be you and do you for YOU!